Is This Real Life?

Great post on Mark’s Daily Apple today.

He offers up some steps to help deal with emotional eating.  Good stuff that most people trying to lose weight gloss over, but I believe is vital.

photo (12)I’ve been thinking about this quote obsessively since yesterday.  How amazingly true and counterintuitive.  It is the foundation of Step 1, and I see how that has worked to get and keep me sober.  I accept that I am an alcoholic and I also accept that in order to stay sober, I must work the steps and implement them into my daily life.

I think for a long time I was in denial about the fact that I was going to be permanently overweight because of my choices and lifestyle.  I had this idea that things would somehow magically get better and that I was not that bad.  That the slow crawl I was doing towards obesity was just a temporary thing and one day I was going to wake up, be in shape and eat less ice cream and more kale.  Maybe the first time I really saw myself was in that CrossFit class.

At some point I began thinking, “Yes.  This is where I really am.  All my past thinking and behavior has gotten me here.”  And then some time later I also accepted that it was going to take a lot of work to get out of the hole I was in.  Not just a diet or exercise plan, but a complete overhaul of the way I looked at food, fitness, weight and my body.  That’s a lot of work.  Physical, mental, emotional and spiritual work.  And I don’t know if you are aware, but I have two little kids and not that much time to myself.  However, because I’d already gotten sober (that definitely involved some work), I knew it could be done.  I knew that this kind of work looks WAY scarier from the outside looking in.  It’s sometimes difficult, but always worth it.  You start by accepting where you are, take an honest look at how you got there and just put one foot in front of the other.

And for God’s sake don’t try and do it alone!

5 thoughts on “Is This Real Life?

  1. “I’ve worked with many people who honestly felt they didn’t deserve to be healthy, to be beautiful, to be happy.”

    Wow, do I ever relate to that feeling. Mark’s post & yours are a lot to chew on – no pun intended. What does life look like with no emotional eating at all? No idea. Truly, I haven’t a clue. You inspire me to someday go there.

  2. I certainly relate to what you say about the work involved – spiritual, mental, emotional, physical. For me to transform, there is work to be done! I used to just sit around and wait for things to happen to me and get resentful when they didn’t. It’s in the action that the changes happen, whether slowly or quickly. I had to look not only at my alcoholism, but the -ism that kept transforming itself. Food was one for sure.

    Great post.

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